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Dr Deborah Vinall's avatar

Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this story - I enjoyed getting to know you better through it.

My breath stopped at the porcelain sink. (So well written). And absolutely delighted me to read your wife's comment above, to see the happy ending (happy middle?!?)!

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Amanda Sabicer's avatar

You were indeed my white knight during those years. 💕 Beautifully written.

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Becky Margiotta's avatar

Literally crying reading this. So much love and respect for the two of you. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

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Steve Sabicer's avatar

The most impressive person to come out of all this is my wife. She deserves most of the credit. Most of the time I feel like I was just along for the ride.

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Steve Sabicer's avatar

I love you so much. Thanks for sticking with me all these years.

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Jessica Alampay's avatar

Steve, this piece flowed like a steady river and then came to a nice, meditative finish. Thanks for sharing your story and reflections with your readers. I really enjoyed reading this piece.

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Steve Sabicer's avatar

Thank you so much Jessica. I’m still meditating on swhat I’ve learned. Looking forward to sharing more soon. Thanks for all your support. When are you coming to Substack. People want to read your story too!

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Francie Teitelbaum's avatar

Steve, I love your reflection and aptly chosen extended metaphor. Beautiful and powerful!

Thank you!

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Steve Sabicer's avatar

Francie, thanks so much. You were my Mr Bandy in high school. We’re a better world because of educators like you.

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Margaret (Peggy) Kelly's avatar

Wow! Well written. You make me think (without the meat). Could I/should I do an introspective piece about where I snipped. You know I am at a different point in my life. There has been a lot of snipping and a lot of wounds. Did I make the snips or did someone else do the snipping? Did I allow them to do the snipping or was it forced? All questions to think about. As always, thank you!

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Steve Sabicer's avatar

Peggy, I love all these questions. Absolutely you should write about them. Before writing this piece I was focused on the positive moments of pruning, and assumed the biggest one was midlife. But just like trees, I’ve been pruning all along sometimes good and sometimes….Pruning or being pruned? That’s a powerful question. Even if we hold the shears, are we always the ones making deciding where to cut. My spirituality might be one of those where I felt coerced. I’d love to hear more of your perspective on that. Thank you so much for sharing, and for reading!

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